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Message of the Week:
Marriage & Emotional Bank Accounts
Sam Adeyemi |
Luke 6: 36:38
God gave man dominion over all his creations but not over his fellow man. The fall of man introduced sin and its resulting issues affected the family too. As a result, man sought to dominate his wife and rather than work together to achieve divine purpose, both parties turned against each other with their children doing the same too. However, when we become born again, grace is available for us to engage the power of God in reversing the effect of the fall in our lives.
[Deep wisdom, beyond human comprehension, has gone into the design of every instruction in God’s word. Obeying His word is therefore the highest level of wisdom we can attain. One paramount instruction is that we love; love your neighbour! Love your wife! Love your husband!
Stephen R. Covey in his book, Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, said we all have emotional bank accounts which are credited when people act in love towards us; on the contrary, when they offend us, this account is depleted. The emotional bank accounts of most marriages are in red because there are no deposits of love. God's instruction is that we love sacrificially in spite of any hurt that we may have experienced.
Love is giving and forgiving. Let's be sympathetic, merciful and sensitive. Don't run down your spouse. Love appreciates the value of a person.
God’s instruction is that we love in spite of the level of deterioration in our relationships. Loving is giving and forgiving, so let’s be sympathetic, merciful and sensitive. Don't’ rundown the other person, love appreciates the value of a person. Every human being has some intrinsic value installed by God that can never be taken away. It doesn’t matter how much your spouse has hurt you, the fact is, that person still has some intrinsic value and is still good. Be careful to see others through God’s eyes, otherwise, you will be deceived into magnifying their flaws and minimizing their strengths. Lets overlook our hurts and pain, which are temporary, and see others as deserving of our love.
Finally, love is best measured by the recipient and not the giver. Everyone has a love language and your marriage will be better off if you understand your spouse's love language which could be one or more of the following:
- Physical Touch
- Quality time
- Words of affirmation
- Acts of service
- Gift
Naturally, we speak our own love language which might not be the same as that of the other person. If we must succeed in love, we must consider our spouses better than ourselves, at this point, love would no longer be difficult because the others person becomes deserving of our sacrifice.
We can love again! Let's ask the help of the Holy Spirit.
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